Definition: Marital fatigue is a state of physical, emotional, and mental exhaustion, weariness, and burnout that arises as a result of estrangement and detachment between spouses during the marriage.
Is "severe incompatibility" a new concept?
In cases of severe marital discord, conflicts and arguments between spouses are intense.,
In such marriages, the dominant emotion is anger. In discord, both spouses...
They have attitudes of trying to prove their own righteousness to the other side, and
Therefore, we observe the presence of intense energy. However, marriage...
It is the feeling of silence and emptiness that prevails in the house in his weariness. Energy
Exhausted, helplessness and, more importantly, hopelessness have set in, and activities...
It has decreased.
What causes spouses to become estranged from each other?
One of the main factors that turns spouses into two hoteliers living in the same house is their shared interests.
There is a gradual decrease in shared goals, common values, and shared activities.
The couple is unable to act with a team spirit and prioritizes individual goals instead of shared objectives.
Goals and objectives come to the forefront. Titled "You, Me, and Everything Between Us"
As I stated in my book, I believe marriage is about "being able to be 'we' while protecting the 'I'".
In marital fatigue, spouses carefully protect their "I"s while neglecting to be "we".
They are unable to act with a team or group spirit.
Therefore, both spouses are directed towards their own goals and the roles they have chosen.,
different lifestyles, different working hours, and even different interests.
and developing different friendships and gradually becoming closer to each other
They are becoming alienated. Even worse, they are ignoring the current problem for a long time.
ignoring, seeking help in the direction of problem-solving
They don't get involved and reduce communication between them, and they don't complain much, however...
They paint a picture that doesn't look happy at all.
What is it that these couples fundamentally lack compared to others?
What's fundamentally missing is emotional investment. Treating the relationship like a shared bank account...
Think about it. Every bank account only grows as investments increase. This bank...
Think of it as an "emotional bank account." Both partners should have this...
They don't invest anything in the account, and they rarely say positive things to each other.,
Appreciation and praise are almost never expressed, there are no surprises at all.,
Expressions of affection are lacking. In other words, there's no emotional investment whatsoever.
A good relationship involves a balance between roots and wings. Roots provide security,
While the body represents commitment, compassion, and tenderness, the wings represent individual growth.,
It symbolizes individual fulfillment and freedom. Sometimes partners move at different speeds.
They are evolving, not growing together, and therefore neglecting their roots.
They are only drawn to their wings. Marriage often leads to a routine life.
Therefore, I think the art of marriage is also the art of being happy within routine.
To achieve this, you need to be able to do even your routine in different ways and make it fun.
It might be possible to bring it.
Lastly, I think marital fatigue is always a sign that a relationship is ending.
That doesn't mean anything. Perhaps spouses recognizing this fatigue will improve their marriage.
It's a given opportunity. But if we realize what's not going right, we'll address it.
We can change it.